Have you ever noticed when we are asked the question “How are you? How are you doing?”. The type of answer we give is so general. This question has become so commonplace that even re-thinking about how to respond to how are you seems like a waste of time. It’s either “I am fine, and you? or I’m good, how are you?”. So in this article, we want to explore different ways on how to respond to how are you, in a positive way and mean it!
How To Respond To How Are You: Be Positive, See Our Story!
When your life is in the gutter, in the bottom of the pit, in the worst case scenario and someone asks you how you are, the first response would be to cry. But if you find yourself surrounded by mud, what if you could pretend that the mud is a face mask? You bathe in the mud, you cover yourself head to toe in that mud, and you see the beauty in that mud! That one minute of happiness and calmness from a change of mentality is what this article is all about.
There Are Negative Responses, Neutral Responses, and Positive Responses.
Without even stopping and really bothering to take an interest in the other person, when we ask someone “how are you”, we get 3 types of distinguished responses.
Some examples of negative responses:
– I do not feel good
– I am tired
– Can’t wait for Friday, eh!
– Do not talk to me about it!
How do you feel when someone answers you like that? Does this boost your enthusiasm? This person may be flooding you with their grievances and will make you regret asking him that question! Just imagine the people who respond strongly to you on Friday! They imply that Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday are bad days, week after week. For these people, Friday is a so-called “bearable” day because they know they are going to be on leave for 2 days. Is this a way to live your life well?
Some examples of neutral answers:
– How are you!
– Not so bad!
– As usual!
– I hold on!
Do you really want to spend a lot of time with a person who thinks life is not so bad? People who use neutral words develop a poor attitude and get mediocre results. I imagine that’s not what you want?
Some examples of positive responses:
– I’m great!
– I feel in great shape!
– It’s great!
– It couldn’t get better!
It’s easy to admit that this kind of answer makes you happy, doesn’t it? Not just for the person who says it and thinks it but also because it emits a positive wave around for the one who asked her the question she receives. People who use positive words are full, lively and being around them is also beneficial for you and your day.
How To Respond To How Are You Positively:
Let’s get into the habit of responding positively and we will get positive results. Our days will be better, our weeks shorter, and our happier relationships with others will also blossom. Let’s avoid watching the news, listening to the news on the radio, or reading the media that spoils us with the bad news that makes us feel depressed.
Our thoughts become facts!
You have to be careful what you think and what you say because our body tries to materialize what we think and say to be right.
What if we don’t feel good? What do we do? Because we are not machines, we can’t always be 100% happy and positive, but being honest about not feeling mentally well can come at a cost.
An example of the power of words:
Imagine a lady that we will call Jenny. When a colleague asks her: “Hi Jenny, how are you?”
Jenny, wanting to be honest, tells the truth to him, answering: “I’m tired”. As Jenny has just materialized her thought or her belief, her body will bend forward, Jenny will have difficulty walking and her day at work will be very difficult.
Now how does the colleague who asked him this question feel? Well, not very excited either. He received negative energy from Jeanne and already regrets asking him that question. Just hearing the word “fatigue” makes us yawn doesn’t it?
Now let’s go back to the end of Jenny’s day. She comes back exhausted from her hard day at work and has only one desire, to sit in her chair to watch the TV news that will feed her small doses of bad news. Now you can imagine how she will feel after this newscast, can you? She will feel even more tired and depressed.
Soon, during the lottery hour, she watches the lottery live and goes to look for her entry form to check and SHE WON! Jenny has just won the jackpot: 3 million dollars!
How will Jenny react after noticing that she is the big winner of the lottery?
She has just won 3 million dollars, but I remind you that Jenny is exhausted. We can imagine that she will jump for joy and call her whole family and her friends to share the news and party the night away and think about her future plans for her new life.
But wait a minute! A minute ago Jenny was totally exhausted and now she jumps and dances like a 12-year-old athlete who has just learned that she is selected to participate in the Olympics!
What happened??? Did she drink a bin of energy drinks to relieve her pain? Was he given a dose of vitamin C? Someone threw a glass of ice water at her?
NO! Her change is simply mental! Jenny’s fatigue was undoubtedly real, but it was
more mental than physical.
How To Respond To How Are You That Will Subconsciously Benefit You:
So starting tomorrow when you are asked ” how are you? “, try to answer with these few beneficial sentences for everyone and really mean it:
– it’s going really well
– I’m in great shape
– I’m doing great.
After a few days like this, you will see small changes beneficial intervening in your life.
In conclusion, when we say we’re tired then we feel tired and when we say we feel great then we feel full of energy. At the end of the day (or in the morning when we meet people), we will become what we think!